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A woman demonstrates against domestic violence in Shenzhen adidas ultra boost tilbud , South China's Guangdong Province, December 10, 2014. Photo: CFP
China's first anti-domestic violence law will officially take effect on March 1. However, a legislative official said that the law will not protect those in same-sex relationships. In reality, statistics show that because of the lack of protection and recognition, the domestic violence rate among gay couples is higher than among heterosexual couples. To achieve equal rights, LGBT groups are considering using legal measures to get the government to amend the law's blind spot.
"We were so in love. But we didn't know how to build a healthy relationship. Very often we resorted to violence to settle arguments at home adidas superstar 80s tilbud ," said Ye Bei (pseudonym), a gay man in Guangzhou, South China's Guangdong Province.
In one of the most serious incidents, Ye's ex-boyfriend went to the kitchen and grabbed a knife to fight with Ye.
Ye had a three-year relationship with his ex. They started dating when they were still in college and the man was Ye's first lover.
However, instead of feeling nostalgia for the loving moments in the relationship, Ye finds that he can only remember harm and abuse.
"Our situation got worse when we began living together after starting work in Guangzhou. I was employed but he was jobless then. So we had lots of arguments. And fighting became a kind of daily ritual," recalled Ye.
Almost every day when Ye went to work adidas superstar slip on tilbud , bruises and scratches could clearly be seen on his skin. "My life sucked at that time. But I couldn't get help from outside and I didn't know how to seek help," said Ye.
In late December, Chinese lawmakers passed the country's first anti-domestic violence law, which will take effect on March 1. The law stipulates that any form of domestic violence is prohibited, including psychological abuse, and it protects both unmarried cohabiters and married couples. But for gay people like Ye who suffer from domestic abuse in same-sex relationships, there is still no legal protection.
Guo Linmao adidas superstar rød tilbud , a legislative official from the National People's Congress Standing Committee's legal affairs commission, said in a news conference that same-sex relationships are not included in this law and he had never heard of domestic abuse happening in gay relationships.
A rampant phenomenon
"Domestic violence is a common problem among LGBT groups, which have a higher rate of violence than those in heterosexual relationships," said Xu Bin, the director of Common Language, a Beijing-based NGO that advocates equal rights for LGBT groups, especially lesbians.
In a survey on domestic violence among lesbians by Common Language which was published in 2014 adidas superstar foundation tilbud , 68.97 percent of the 419 respondents reported that they have suffered domestic violence and 49.16 percent said they have been abused by their parents. A total of 42.64 percent of the 401 respondents that have been in gay relationships said they have suffered abuse from a partner, while 45 percent of the 163 respondents that have previously been in heterosexual relationships said they have been abused by their partner.
Those who suffered abuse in gay relationships experienced physical violence, mental abuse, economic control and sexual assaults.
In China, same-sex marriage is still illegal.
The statistics also show that lesbians are far more likely to suffer domestic violence than heterosexual women, among whom, according to a survey conducted by the All-China Women's Federation in 2011 adidas superstar blå tilbud , 24.7 percent have suffered abuse.
According to Xu, when lawmakers were seeking public consultation for the anti-domestic violence law, she completed their survey and sent a petition with more than 2,000 signatures to legislative officials, intending to attract their attention to domestic violence in gay relationships.
"Maybe they were too busy to take a look at it," she said.
Wan Zi, (pseudonym) adidas superstar 2 tilbud , a 33-year-old lesbian, was both an abuser and a victim during her seven-year relationship with an ex-girlfriend.
Wan would beat her ex-girlfriend when they were quarreling and her ex liked to put physiological pressure on Wan.
"When I tried to talk to her to solve the problem, she just turned her face away, sneered, and started the cold war. I can't stand the type of psychological violence she did to me. So I can't stop myself from beating her," Wan said.
She confessed that she had never realized that her behavior was domestic violence or wrong, as she often saw her father beating her mother when she was young.
One time adidas superstar sort tilbud , when Wan's girlfriend tried to call police after taking a beating, Wan snatched away the phone.
"I didn't think police will intervene in other people's family matters. Even if the police come, he may just laugh about our sexuality," Wan told the Global Times.
Lack of recognition, protection
In China, the recognition of gay people in society is still low. It wasn't until 2001 that homosexuality was removed from the country's list of psychological diseases. But still there are many media reports of gay people being sent for "convention therapy" or to psychiatric hospitals for treatment by their family members.
Ah Qiang, a well-known gay rights activist and founder of Parents adidas superstar hvid tilbud , Families and Friends of Lesbians And Gays (PFLAG) China, an LGBT advocacy group, told the Global Times that because of the secrecy that is typically part of same-sex relationships in China, many gay people have suffered "breakup violence," a kind of mental abuse. As many do not come out of the closet to their family or coworkers, their partners threaten to out them if they dare to break up.
Each year, his organization receives many calls from people who complain that they are facing psychological torture from "breakup violence."
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